How to Raise Kids Who Are Resilient

In a recent op-ed in The New York Times, Sheryl Sandberg writes about what she’s learned about building resilience in kids, even after a devastating loss. “The good news is that resilience isn’t a fixed personality trait.” she writes, “We’re not born with a set amount of it. Resilience is a muscle we can help kids build.” She mentions 3 main principles that help kids persevere.

  1. Feeling loved: No matter what’s going on, kids should never doubt that they are loved, valued and that they matter. This is crucial to their overall well-being.
  2. Unwavering support: Even if there isn’t a clear solution to the problem a child might be experiencing, it’s so important to listen to them and walk alongside them as they grieve or struggle.
  3. Being rooted: Understanding who they are and where they come from is so important for helping kids deal with pain and loss. When kids talk about the past, even if it’s painful, it helps them face the future challenges.

The op-ed has a lot more examples of how to help kids through a difficult time. Check it out here.